Self-With-Others

So much a part of me I no longer see it.....

I was coaching someone yesterday.

She's been working with me for a couple of years now.

She was reflecting on her journey and how much has changed.

Part of her longer term intention is to support/coach/mentor/guide others, but she does not (rightly I think) feel ready yet. So, as well as coaching, we're exploring how to coach.

We're looking at some foundations.

She reflected on the power she's discovered in my 'framework'.

It's called Self-With-Others.

It grew from decades training actors to work in ensemble, but expanded to explore how each of us can thrive in an interconnected world.

It's hard to interest people in a 'new' perspective which takes study and disicpline, in a marketplace stuffed with over-promising and quick-fixes. So I hardly ever mention Self-With-Others anymore.

It's a shame. It's robust.

It suggests three ways to look at any situation:

1. What does the situation tell you about yourself (inner work)?

2. What are the connections that underpin the situation (internal & external)?

3. What is the system within which the situation is unfolding (systems theory)?

There's then a number of questions to help you explore each of those three perspectives.

My client reminded me that SWO is powerful. It's become invisible to me. Like the foundations of a house, it's unseen but is the substructure on which everything else is built. It's how I approach my own life and my work with others.

I no longer bother to try to interest others in it. I do not have the skills to penetrate the noise of an online marketplace I'm no longer much in love with.

If you want to find out more about SWO, you can do so here: https://johnbritton.co/selfwithothers/ - though these pages are no longer 'public' on my website....

Perhaps it will be of use as we all continue to navigate this crazy toxic time.